Hi ppl

[melbgy39]

Hi ppl, my name is Al and I am 40 years old. I never played the sims before but about a year ago I was involved in a car accident with my wife and children. The guy who hit us was completely drunk and it was only 4:30 in the afternoon. He was doing over 80 mph when he broadsided us. My wife & children where killed on impact and I was hospitalized for 5 months. I lost both my legs and my left arm. My brother gave me the sims games so that while I was recooperating I would have something to keep my mind off my family. I am grateful for him doing that. It allowed me to deal with others without dealing with others. I was tired though of the blur in the game until my nephew took care of it. I am however saddened by the lack of automony this game has, I do understand it is for children, but as an adult I wish it had more. I would love to have some of the skins this site has, but I am forced to just look at them here instead. I am not working anymore and I am on disability for life. My medical bills alone who cause all of you to cry. I don't want your simpathy, just wanted to let you know I am here and I will see you here for a while. You all have a good day and please....
Don't Drink & Drive!

[Exnem]

Hi ppl, my name is Al and I am 40 years old. I never played the sims before but about a year ago I was involved in a car accident with my wife and children. The guy who hit us was completely drunk and it was only 4:30 in the afternoon. He was doing over 80 mph when he broadsided us. My wife & children where killed on impact and I was hospitalized for 5 months. I lost both my legs and my left arm. My brother gave me the sims games so that while I was recooperating I would have something to keep my mind off my family. I am grateful for him doing that. It allowed me to deal with others without dealing with others. I was tired though of the blur in the game until my nephew took care of it. I am however saddened by the lack of automony this game has, I do understand it is for children, but as an adult I wish it had more. I would love to have some of the skins this site has, but I am forced to just look at them here instead. I am not working anymore and I am on disability for life. My medical bills alone who cause all of you to cry. I don't want your simpathy, just wanted to let you know I am here and I will see you here for a while. You all have a good day and please....
Don't Drink & Drive!

Hi Al

I'm really shocked by your story. I love my wife and daugther so much, that if anything was to happen to them I think I'd probably die too... And this is from someone who believes in life after death, so I know we would be reunited again, but to have to go through that, and in such a horrible way, I'm really really sorry for you. I don't know what to say...

I know everything happens for a reason (even though sometimes that reason escapes us and we may get to think life's unjust) but I would never wish something like this to anyone.

For what it's worth, I hope you have a good time with us and that you may make many friends here.

[swsebrownsugar1888]

Hello Al
I'm so very sorry to hear what happen to you and your family.
Welcome to the fourm and I hope you enjoy your stay.

[melbgy39]

I can say this about sims players, they are heartfelt and true in their feelings. I am thankful to know that there are people here who care. Yes, the truth is it hurts. My faith in God has been tested, sadly to say even though I know I will see them again, it still causes me pain, sorrow and anger. Pain knowing that those I love are no more, sorrow because I will be alone. My anger started to be directed towards the drunk but as time progressed It has turned to God. Don't get me wrong, I don't hate him, but I can not understand why he allowed this to happen. Time will tell. Until then, we wait and see.

I do need to clarify something though, I wrote this here in order to have others see what kind of effect drinking and driving has on others around them, just as a for knowledge. I didn't however post it so I could get free access to this site. I understand that there are some really sick people who might try this just for the "fun" of it, but I am not one of them. I was offered something by Exnem but I responded in this way, I don't want a freebie, just friends. I may be stupid in some eyes, but I turned him down. I would rather wait and get full access once I can spare enough to join then to have someone give me a "free" subscription and have them look at me as a sick game player.... I can tell this to everyone, I would give the heart from my chest to have my arm and legs back if only for a moment. I would be willing to die a horrible death if for only one moment more with my family in my arm.

[melbgy39]

Oh, and just for the facts of the case. Here is the drunk's car....

http://bellsouthpwp2.net/g/a/gayflmn4mn/drunk.jpg

And 3 of our car.....

http://bellsouthpwp2.net/g/a/gayflmn4mn/ourcar3.jpg
http://bellsouthpwp2.net/g/a/gayflmn4mn/ourcar1.jpg
http://bellsouthpwp2.net/g/a/gayflmn4mn/ourcar2.jpg

[swsebrownsugar1888]

I can say this about sims players, they are heartfelt and true in their feelings. I am thankful to know that there are people here who care. Yes, the truth is it hurts. My faith in God has been tested, sadly to say even though I know I will see them again, it still causes me pain, sorrow and anger. Pain knowing that those I love are no more, sorrow because I will be alone. My anger started to be directed towards the drunk but as time progressed It has turned to God. Don't get me wrong, I don't hate him, but I can not understand why he allowed this to happen. Time will tell. Until then, we wait and see.

I do need to clarify something though, I wrote this here in order to have others see what kind of effect drinking and driving has on others around them, just as a for knowledge. I didn't however post it so I could get free access to this site. I understand that there are some really sick people who might try this just for the "fun" of it, but I am not one of them. I was offered something by Exnem but I responded in this way, I don't want a freebie, just friends. I may be stupid in some eyes, but I turned him down. I would rather wait and get full access once I can spare enough to join then to have someone give me a "free" subscription and have them look at me as a sick game player.... I can tell this to everyone, I would give the heart from my chest to have my arm and legs back if only for a moment. I would be willing to die a horrible death if for only one moment more with my family in my arm.

My real name is Sharen. I have lost people who were dear to me, and believe me at first I did blame God but then I realize that it was'nt Gods fault, It was the driver fault or it was the sickness fault or it was the drugs fault. Now I know you want to tell me to shup up I dont know anything and you are right but I do know this with very good friends and time it will get better. In time when you feel a little better talk to God and ask him to help you cope with the problem, and take time to read the bible. lean on for friends and family for love and surpport and by all means keep your head up. Take care of yourself
HUGS from Sharen

[Moonsong]

Hi melbgy39,
Just wanted to say I'm truly sorry to read of your loss! I have a question though, How did the driver who hit you fare from this accident?

Also I'm including a link to MADD which offers support to victims of drunk drivers.
http://www.madd.org/

Otherwise I hope you enjoy your stay here. WELCOME!! :D :sunny: :hello2:

[melbgy39]

He walked away without a scratch. About two months later he was sentenced to 5 years probation. I was so pissed off about that. Two days later he was drunk again and driving. He sideswiped a car sending it off a cliff of 50 foot drop. He proceded to gain more speed and took a corner too fast, he was doing 90+ in a turn rated for 35 max. He hit a truck of gasoline and died in a fireball. I might mention that He killed the driver of the truck and also a man, his wife and 4 children in the car he sideswiped. I send letters to the judge who slapped his wrist with a photocopy of that newspaper article and pictures of my family and their gravesites. Everyday he gets reminded by over 300 people about his wrong decisions concerning drunk drivers. I myself am currently pushing my congressman to submit a law that says anyone who is pulled over and found to be intoxicated above the legal limit should get a minimum of 25 years in prison for the first offense. If they cause an accident that results in injuries, they should get life in prison. If they cause an accident that results in someone dying, they should be sentenced to death. I am tired of seeing drunks say.... "i didn't mean too, the alcohol is why it happened," and then them getting a slap on the wrist. I feel that anyone who is willing to drink alcohol and then get behind the wheel of anything should not be given a lite sentence, but make it HARSH on them. Just like they make it harsh on the families of those they hurt.

[MuldersFoxy]

Sorry...bit late with the post.

Im really sorry for your loss Mel, those photos are a shock to the system. I wasnt too sure what to say on this post at first. As it also annoys me about drink drivers too, we got plenty of them round where I use to live. Small town, too many pubs..too many drunk drivers! And like you said (which is very true) they always seem to be the ones that end up without a scratch on them. I bet your little girl and your wife are always watching over you, (hope I dont upset you by saying this..as I dont mean to) But I can just see your little girl having a giggle while she watches over you playing The Sims.

There are some lovely people on here...and we are all friendly :D So welcome to the forum :wave:

[melbgy39]

Thanks. I agree with you but I think my whole family enjoys watching me play this game. I know they are in a better place, but from time to time it seems as though they are close by. My wife used to constantly pick up all the pens in the house and put them in a glass jar on the desk. Whenever I needed a pen I would go get one and leave it where ever I was finished with it. One day I went to the desk looking for a pen and then saw there was none. I balled up and cried for an hour. When I stood up to go wipe my face off I saw the jar wasa full of pens again. I thanked my wife, got one, and went back to what I was doing. I didn't realize it until later that night.

[MrFrost]

im sorry for your loss melbgy39, enjoy your time here you will find like i the people of the vault are quite kind.

[ravenice]

Because I almost lost my baby sister to a drunk driver in 2003
and all he got was 60 days probation and my sister cant work nomore
because he messed up her back and is not able to walk far or lift stuff
anymore
I so sorry man
By the way all im New Here.

[swsebrownsugar1888]

Because I almost lost my baby sister to a drunk driver in 2003
and all he got was 60 days probation and my sister cant work nomore
because he messed up her back and is not able to walk far or lift stuff
anymore
I so sorry man
By the way all im New Here.
Hello ravenice
Sorry to hear about what happen to your sister.

Welcome to the forum.